Do I have right to love ?

Love is a Choice not a Feeling.

 

Love is sacrifice. It is sometimes that feeling right away, but not always. Feelings come and go. Real love stays.

It’s a verb.

An action.

A choice.

A sacrifice of yourself.

It’s an investment.

If you show someone love, that doesn’t mean they are going to love you back or that they should either.

Wait for someone who gets you first, and then decide whether or not you feel the same. Unrequited love is painful. Wait to love someone who loves you back. Someone who can appreciate and understand all of you.

There are all kinds of people in the world. We’re all very different. Don’t assume someone thinks the way you do.

When you know what you’re looking for, it’s easier to find it. It’s also easier to dismiss people who don’t embody the traits you appreciate. When you don’t know what you want, you are embarking down a road of confusion and sidetracks.

I read this French proverb once and it really stuck with me:

“Love, like bread, has to be made over. It has to be made new.”

This suggests that love is some work. It’s not just a feeling. You do the work (the energy, sacrifice, time, etc) first and then you reap the benefit of the feeling. And what’s more — it lasts.

Anything else is infatuation and will ultimately fade, and usually within a few months. Love at first sight is nothing more than infatuation. You like how they look. You’re attracted. There’s nothing wrong with that, but looks fade. Newsflash-we’re all gonna die one day.

Why not wait for someone with a heart of gold who will bless your life? Can you laugh with her? Play with her? Can you be vulnerable and cry on her shoulder when you feel like the whole world is against you? Those things bury seeds deep in your heart. Love grows. They last longer. And I dare say, you even need them.

 

Your partner says to you, “If you can’t come up with at least 3 reasons on why you love me, then you do not love me. You just love the whole idea of me. Or you love the way I make you feel or how I look; you love the attention I give you, but you do not love me.”What do you do?
You might sit around and think about what is going on, why your spouse is asking you all these questions. But the truth is people today are largely mistaken on what love actually is. They tend to think love is feeling even when it is not. They believe that being in love means butterflies and rainbows; thinking about that one person constantly all throughout your day.
This is where they go wrong! These butterflies and thoughts occupied by your partner is not love. It is an infatuation. It is fun, but it does not define love.
So what is love?

What is love?

Love is pain and sacrifice. Love is compromise and respect. Love is the most beautiful and real thing in this world and when reciprocated can make you feel things you never knew existed.

Imagine someone knowing all about you like the back of your hand. Even the unimportant things that you don’t want anyone to know about; such as the things that make you embarrassed.
Imagine yourself messing up and letting this person down, and they forgive you.
They are smart enough to read between the lines, understand the situation and do not judge you. This means that they love you.
They notice the smallest things like the scar on your thighs or the mole on your neck, you may hate it, but they think it defines you.